“But there were no role models or discussions about being solo so it didn’t dawn on me until I was 30 that I could opt out of the gay world and be entirely satisfied with masturbation. “I was so adventurous and curious about my body and the pleasure I could get from it, so I was for sure solosexual growing up,” he says.
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